I am sitting here alone in Sneads Ferry as Naoma had to return to her kids in Virginia Beach. I am, however, not alone. There are reminders of her everywhere. Her Yetti bottle with her name on it, sitting right next to mine, a very thoughtful Birthday gift. Photos on my dresser and on my phone and a refrigerator full of meals and healthy snacks that she prepared ahead of time for me. I didn’t ask, it’s just what she does. Naoma has a gift of generosity that is very humbling. I don’t know what I did to deserve this kind of treatment, but it makes me want to do more for her too.
Love is like that I suppose, it makes you just want to make the other person happy, before your own happiness. I like to think it’s a positive feedback loop that keeps growing into what we have today. I do feel at a loss sometimes. How do you repay someone who always has meals prepared, takes care of your home, your laundry, your dog? Well, for starters, I try to do more of the man stuff around the house, take out the trash, keep the cars in working order and full of gas, tell her everyday that she is beautiful, engage with her boys, and most of all, spend my time with her and make her feel that she is loved and appreciated. A good woman like Naoma makes me want to do all of those things. Life is a team sport for sure, and we make a good team. I am strong where she is weak and conversely she has strengths in my areas of weakness. I’m an extrovert, she’s an introvert. She’s organized, I wish I was. She’s short, I’m tall (both of which come in handy at times). Here’s a great example of our teamwork, whenever I take out the trash, she has a new liner in the can before I return. This may sound small, but I hate putting in the new bag, I don’t know why, I just do, so I thank her every time, because I don’t want her to stop. It’s all these small things that add up tremendously that make her irreplaceable.
So the distance and the time apart is not ideal, but I really feel that as long as we stay on this path and keep serving one another, we will make this love last a lifetime. I have my team in place and I’m not looking to make any trades, I know what I have!